When I think about enlightenment, I get this picture in my head of Jim Carey in “Ace Ventura” seeking to attain “omnipresent super galactic oneness” which isn’t validated until he is presented with a “medallion of spiritual accomplishment”
Now, I understand of course that this is all in jest and for the plot of the character, but it got me thinking about external validation. Specifically, In my quest for “oneness” I have come to realise that seeking validation from external factors is one of the things that creates disillusionment and dissatisfaction.
If one continues to seek validation from external factors there will never be a sense of fulfilment. This is due to the fact that in doing so we become easily manipulated by others views of ourselves. “We think we are what they think we are” which becomes an issue as it creates a habit of not being able to confront people or disagree with others opinions. Moreover it enables a pattern of behaviour where we change our thoughts and beliefs because someone else either approves or disapproves and accredit our self worth to the approval of others.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s something I’m sure we all encounter throughout our lives and is definitely an opportunity for growth for me on occasion. But I believe once we have an awareness of this we can begin the journey of self actualisation by changing the way we speak to ourselves.
Positive Self talk and daily affirmations are great to use to aid you on this path of realising you are worth it and you’ve got this!!
One effective tool I use is “mirror work” and according to the late self help guru Louise Hay “Mirror work” is a unique, new age type of practice where you meet your reflection in the mirror and send yourself loving, self-affirming affirmations, and even open up a conversation with yourself as if you’re speaking with a dear friend” I know they say that talking to yourself is the first sign of madness but I readily agree that mirror work is definitely a benefit and a great resource in changing the way you talk to yourself.
I’ve found it also helps me breakdown concerns or questions I have about things happening in my everyday life and allows me to approach challenges in a more rational and realistic way. I suggest, even if it is once a day for a week to start with, to try it out. You may feel ridiculous being in front of a mirror talking to yourself at first but I assure you with consistent practice it gets easier and will create a positive difference in your perspective.
Some tips to begin mirror work:
1. Grab a mirror, handheld or free standing is fine as long as you get close, upfront and personal with it
2. Make eye contact, this is very important. It will feel uncomfortable at first but helps in seeing yourself without judgement
3. Start to talk to yourself. Begin by saying out loud positive affirmations and what makes you feel really good about yourself. It’s about building a willingness to be vulnerable with yourself.
This simple practice of positive self talk really can be transformative. If you are consistent and allow it to impact you in a positive way you will begin to see a difference in your approach to life in the little things.
Wishing Love and light to all 🦋
Mr Gibbous and The Wildling 